Monday, August 31, 2009

Perfect Parenting

Is there such a thing? I've been a parent for more than 10 years now and I am still searching for the best parenting strategies and tips from books, magazines, TV and from other parents as well. There's a common goal, and that is to raise our children in the best possible way we know how. So how do we know we're doing it right? Is there a standard way of doing it, or should we just follow our instincts and deal with every situation as it comes? Well I think we should have guidelines to follow and rules to set. Being consistent makes our intentions more solid and our children can relate with the rules better if we have consistency. So we can safely say that even though there may not be Perfect Parenting, there is such a thing as Good Parenting. I've read somewhere that good parenting is parenting that fosters psychological adjustment- elements like honesty, empathy, self-reliance, kindness, cooperation, self-control and cheerfulness. Good parenting is parenting that helps children succeed in school. It promotes the development of intellectual curiosity, motivation to learn and the desire to achieve. It deters children from anti-social behavior, delinquency and drug and alcohol use. And good parenting is parenting that protect children against the development of anxiety, depression, eating disorders and other types of psychological distress. All of these traits should be taken into consideration when dealing with our kids, We have a lot of work to do if we want to keep up with our children's growth, physically, emotionally and mentally. There is no more important job in any society than raising children, and there is no more important influence on how children develop than their parents. So who is up for the challenge?